The occasionally unconditional: A woman is self sufficient, strong, independent though sometimes need someone to lean on. The occasionally unconditional boyfriend is exactly what every woman needs. Note the use of the word woman. Not all girls are women, and vice versa. A woman is bold enough to take a leap, and not so prideful that when taking that leap, if she was to fall, she’d let this boyfriend catch her. He makes you unbelievably ecstatic when he is around, and you miss him more every second he isn’t. Not that the ‘unconditional’ boyfriend doesn’t merit this type of treatment, but your feelings seem to push and pull when you don’t have enough space. This boyfriend realizes what a woman is, and what the definition of a girlfriend is.
A girl needs to be a girl, can’t always be your girlfriend, and a friend is exactly what the name explains, someone who you are a friend to. This boyfriend can make it all happen, and make it look EASY. He also tries his best to pull through for the relationship, but is no superman, but when he can’t help it, he’ll reassure you of his intentions, so you never second guess whether he really wanted to spend time with you or not. He will compliment you on not only your personality and physical beauty, but he will make you realize the things that make you unique and special. Not only in general, but, what in his eyes, separates you from every other girl in the world. He doesn’t strive to not only make you happy, but to keep you entertained.
His motivation is hearing your laugh and knowing when he’s smiling, you’re smiling back. He works to keep the relationship fresh, never replaying a day over, but delivering the same feeling of ecstasy every day like a drug. He’ll also look out for you in every way, making sure you’re eating right, staying out of trouble, and being a good girl. Not to say you won’t have fun, because of course this boyfriend is also outgoing and playful when you want him to be, but knows his limits and won’t ever stop respecting you. He’s the man that when in doubt you’ll always turn to, and you have no doubt he’ll try his best to make it better. You expect to come out of the conversation smiling, even in the most doubtful situations. If not, you know he’ll be there for you without a doubt.
I think the biggest mistake I've made in the past is the fact that i expected so much out of people. I've met some incredible new people and friends. There are seldom few that I trust, and even fewer that I truly invest my time and energy with. This is not to say that I walk around rotating in circles to make sure no one is going to stab my back or that I don't speak with anyone unless they are the greatest friend ever. I was secretly angry and upset at people who were letting me down. Some of them really did let me down. But for the most part I was just expecting too much. I'm the type of person that will invest ever ounce of my soul into you if I really care about you. I think this can be a bit unhealthy at times. I poured out my whole heart into certain relationships expecting so much more back.. and it hurt. I was setting myself up, it really wasn't the other person's fault. I was sad and upset. I was angry at myself and at them. no, not at them personally. I suppose I set myself up to be the one chasing after people all the time. Always chasing, never the one chased. Don't you know how exhausting that is? One of the worst things about anger, when you keep it inside and don't let it out, it can do horrible things to you. I'm going to cut to the chase. If it's one obvious thing about people, It's that they're difficult. It's my fault that i'm always get quizzical when it comes to the longevity of any relationship. I tried too hard to establish "long lasting" friendships that I set myself up to believe that people actually mean it whenever they say i'll be there for you. Maybe you're reading this and it's a bit hard for you to believe. I think people forget how easy it is for a person to hide what's really going on. I'm not perfect. I struggle, I cry, I complain, I frustrate -- a whole bunch. there's a lot i've got to work on, but God isn't quite finished with me yet. For a few minutes today, there was stillness and only contentment. A peace of mind i've never felt before, one I certainly cannot describe. I've forgotten all about people and how much their words can hurt you. It was like the way life is supposed to be and never is. Then I ran across this quote and it hit me:
"People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered; Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway. If you are successful you will win some false friends and true enemies; Succeed anyway. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway. What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway. If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway. You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway." - Mother Teresa
Is love worth it? Maybe some people wouldn't say so. But I think, personally, that it would be worse to have been alone all your life. The fate of my heart is my choice and no one else gets a vote. Sure, I have been hurt in my life. Quite a bit. But it's also true that I have loved and been loved. And that carries a weight of its own, a greater weight in my opinion. It's like a pie chart. In the end, I'll look back on my life and see that the greatest piece of it was love. Sure I have to protect myself, I can't just give myself away. But holding people away from you, and denying yourself love, that doesn't make you strong. If anything, it makes you weaker, because you're doing it of fear. Fear of taking a chance, letting go and giving into it. And that's what makes us what we are: risks. That's living. Being scared to even try it, that's just a waste.. I can say I made a lot of mistakes but I don't regret things. Because at least I didn't spend a life standing outside wondering what living would be like. Drastic times don't call for drastic measures. It calls for sitting down, stfu-ing and thinking things through before you fuck it up more. Too many times has someone screwed up a friendship, relationship, anything for this matter over their own irrationality.
Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there... to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson or help figure out who you are or who you want to become. You never know who these people may be but when you look eyes with them, you know that every moment that you are with them, they will affect your life in some profound way. And sometimes things happen to you at the time that may seem horrible, painful and unfair, but in reflection you realize that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, will power or heart. I believe that the people you meet affect your life. The successes and downfalls that you experience can create who you are, and the bad experiences can be learned from.. In fact, they are probably the most important ones. If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart. If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally not only because they love you, but also because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again.